Friday, May 13, 2005

Are you afraid of marriage?

A friend was telling me yesteday about her ex-colleague who is still a newlywed for 2 months, her marriage is already on the rocks. She said that her husband approaches her only when he needs sex, if not he would just ignore her. He wasn't like that when they were still in their courtship. He seems like a changed person after their marriage. She was sobbing very pitifully when she was talking about her marriage problem to my friend.

I have seen & heard many examples of failed marriages. The process from courtship to marriage is a pretty dramatic change to a certain extent. Things change. People change. Quite scary huh?

Some say marriage spells the graveyard for love, some say, it’s the beginning of a new chapter in life. Some say life is not complete without it, and some let fate be their captain. What do you think?

Marriage is a lifelong commitment. It is supposed to be blissful & happy. But it's never easy.

Some people marry just because they think they have reached a marriageable age & they feel that they ought to marry themselves off. Some couples may have been in their courtships for many years but their marriages may not necessary turn out be blissful & happy. Some may have only been together for less than a year or maybe just a few months, their marriages can still possible to turn out to be blissful & happy.

In my opinion, time is not really an important factor to determine how potential a relationship can transform into a marriage. To me, it's more of the feelings, the values & the futures that the both of us will want to see in the relationship that we hold together. I think if you are not ready to commit, never ever rush into things & get yourselves hitched too hasty.

I have always wanted to marry early. Like 25, 26. It's considered as quite a young age to get married in this century. This is what I want but a lot of things are really beyond my control. So the best is to let nature takes its course. The most old-fashioned way of saying. Haha. Well, fate is something you never know. :)

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